Female relationships are difficult, REALLY difficult, yet, they are beautiful and the most important relationships you’ll have in your life. Friendships are these indescribable bonds that can alleviate innate feminine loneliness. It's that pacifying feeling when shit hits the fan in any way you can call upon a friend and they will ride by your side. As an avid friend collector for 22-years, I’ve lost friends, gained friends, had friends come back into my life. Throughout the tumultuous road of friendship, I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t. With that said, I comprised a list of rules that I believe stick to the code, the G-Code that is.
As much as we all like to think it’s a “bro’s over hoes” situation when it comes to friendships, we’re wrong. Throwing boys into the dynamic will tarnish a friendship with the quickness. Tread lightly ladies, there is no need to be THAT close with your friend's boyfriend. Unless you REALLY knew the guy prior the relationship, there should be no exchange of flirtatious emojis, ‘boos’ or ‘baes’ thrown around. Neither of you should be liking eachother’s selfies. Period.
Always be honest. A real friend is going to tell you how it is. They may not always agree, but your input should be valued.
It is natural for you to bring people together. However, don’t be the friend that gets put on and then thinks they know everyone better…it's really annoying.
Friends are much like boyfriends. Communication is the binding foundation for any productive relationship. Be willing to have a conversation when issues arise. Unless you feel as though there is nothing to salvage aka #BYEBOO.
Laugh. ALL. THE. TIME.
Be helpful when a friend is down. You will be down at some point too.
YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO INTENTIONALLY CHILL WITH YOUR HOMEGIRLS EX-MANS UNLESS IT IS TO RETRIEVE HER BELONGINGS, YOU FEEL. That’s it. Sorry ma.
Clothes are material things. Don’t be the homegirl who ends a friendship over a crop top.
Be cognizant that women are fully insane, yourself included. You can avoid a lot of suffering with that understanding.
Remind your friends how much you love and appreciate them.
Illustrations by Deer Dana.